ESTP – ENTP Relationship

Joys and Struggles

This section ESTP - ENTP relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. Specifically, we will be looking at the joys of this relationship as well as the struggles this relationship may have.

The ESTP - ENTP relationship has 3 preference similarities and 1 preference difference. Regardless of the number of similarities and differences, each personality combination will have its unique set of challenges. We will look at each of the 4 preferences individually:

Extroversion-Introversion

Joys

Struggles

Because both parties enjoy people, they are likely to go for many socializing activities and parties together. They will likely enjoy each other’s energy and zest for life and have many fun activities and adventures together. Because of their love for people and socializing, they are likely to have a large network around them, supporting and mediating for the couple in time of need.

Because both love to speak, (not so much listen), they may try to compete for air time when conversing with one another. So instead of listening, they may out talk each other in order to be heard. Hence, they may not feel fulfilled, especially if one party is always doing the talking and the other doing the listening. One party may turn to outside friends to fill that desire to speak and be heard, and in bad cases, it may lead to extra-marital affair.

Sensing-Intuition

Joys

Struggles

Sensors enjoys the insightful and brilliant Intuitive and seeing things from a big picture, strategic perspective relative to theirs. Sensors are also likely fascinated by the outlandish imagination of the Intuitive; with big dreams and visions. Intuitives will appreciate the Sensors attention to detail in everyday living; Sensors bring Intuitives down to earth to common sense. While not true for all Sensors, Sensors dress themselves and groom themselves relatively well; this is something that Intuitives will appreciate and admire.

May find it a challenge to have a common topic for discussion; Sensors enjoy talking about everyday happenings while Intuitive enjoys ideas, trends and theories. These differences in interest may mean the couple may find little or no chemistry. Sensors are more past and present focused while Intuitives tend to be more future oriented; This means that Sensors will take references from past experiences and present facts to make a decision, while Intuitives are more likely to take into account future possibilities when doing so. – This may lead to different conclusions with available information. Sensors may find Intuitives’ lack of interest in everyday living and managing household tasks to be frustrating; they don’t understand why Intuitives are always ‘in their heads’, pondering about the deep things of life while they are the ones taking care of the duties of the household.

Thinking-Thinking

Joys

Struggles

Both parties enjoy the straightforward and frank communication styles; no emotional issues is brought into discussion and decision making. As such, both find it easy to communicate with each other; they won’t have to try to cushion their message or filter it; but can afford to be direct without being afraid of offending the other party. In decision-making, both parties use a logical, objective analysis to access pros and cons. This same mode of decision-making will mean that they are less likely to come into conflict.

While both are logical with one another, sometimes some romance and affection can liven up the relationship; both parties may have issues showing it. Because both use a logical and objective process in decision-making, they may have a blind spot in considering their personal values. Under stress, they may have an issue controlling their own emotions; sometimes this can lead to highly intense fights that are destructive.

Perceiving-Perceiving

Joys

Struggles

Both parties enjoy being spontaneous to changing circumstances and keeping their options open without seeing the need to come to a decision. Both tend to be okay with going with the flow; for the most part, daily decisions like eating locations or recreational activities are decided on a whim. Little conflict over these issues. Both parties are comfortable with disorganization in the household; the household will probably be messy, and both are perfectly fine with it.

Both parties tend to be less consistent in performing routine household tasks like cleaning the house, doing the laundry and paying the bills. However, since these activities are a necessary evil, the partner that tries to do these tasks consistently may feel frustrated and maybe resentful. Also, because both parties want to keep their options open, they are likely to procrastinate making important decisions, sometimes even pushing it away until they make none.

 

Here’s how ESTPs and ENTPs can relate to each other better:

Reaching out to the ESTP as an ENTP

Allow your partner to express – If you find yourself dominating a conversation, ask questions and allow your partner to give his/her opinion.  Explain things in real terms – Don’t get into theory or ideas if you want to convince your partner. Instead, show it in a real way. Demonstrate if possible.  Give specific instructions – Don’t talk about the big picture strategy which often confuses your partner. Break it down into step-by-step to-dos and actionable instructions.  Keep it light hearted – Your partner works best in a casual and light-hearted environment. Don’t get too serious or intense with him/her.  Give options – Your partner enjoys the freedom of choice. Don’t try to press him/her for conclusions, but allow your partner to be free to decide what, when and how.

Reaching out to the ENTP as an ESTP

Don’t be afraid to speak up – Your partner is opinionated but likes differing ideas. Just speak up and explain your logic, your partner will enjoy debating with you.  Get to the gist – Don’t spend too much time on detail – get to the point quickly. Let your partner be the one to ask you the details if he/she wants to probe.  Ask your partner to simplify it – Sometimes you may not get your partners’ point of view because it appears too complex. Ask your partner to simplify it and use a metaphor to make it understandable.  Talk about the effectiveness of an approach – Your partner wants to know why an approach is more effective than another. He/she will do it by questioning your logic.  Focus on long-term implications Your partner will be more interested in what will happen in the future; while you may be more interested in what is going to happen now. Balance your explanation with both.

This is a summary of the joys and pains of the ESTP – ENTP relationship.

However, personality dynamics are more complex than this. It does not just extend to the difference or similarity in individual preferences but goes deeper than that.