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ENTP in love

ENTPs are energetic, tough-minded partners who relentlessly seek growth and learning opportunities. Engaging, intelligent and easy going, ENTPs are often popular people in their social circles.

Because of their love for intellectual discourse, ENTPs often enjoy a debate about anything under the sun. The act is more due to their desire to work their brains than actually to prove anyone wrong. Other intellectuals will like ENTPs because they can hold a debate well without getting things getting too serious or too personal. However, partners who aren’t the intellectual types will find this off-putting. They don’t like debate and rather let the ENTP win their arguments than engaging them in a tiring back-and-forth that yields little or no results.

ENTPs are constantly seeking ways to improve their lives and their relationships. They’re thinking, ‘How can I make this relationship better?’ ‘How can I improve things in the household?’ ‘What can I do to relate to my children better?’. Their relentless pursuit of growth is good and healthy. Ultimately, it leads to a higher quality of life for their families.

However, they have to be careful not to impose their desire for growth on their partners. Their partners may feel suffocated if they constantly have to think like the ENTP. Most other types are not as attuned to growth, and they will feel breathless trying to keep up with the ENTP.

ENTPs are direct with their words. They see no need to mince or sugarcoat their words. They rather speak the truth and let everyone deal with it. This can be helpful and makes them great entrepreneurs or debaters, but it may be a challenge in relationships, especially if their partner is a Feeling type. They’re likely not going to be aware that they have offended or hurt their partners with their cutting words. ENTPs may overcome this insensitivity by being more self-aware and attempting to read their partner’s emotions.

ENTPs are driven by the initial burst of inspiration, finding themselves enthusiastic around new projects – they often have great ideas on how to improve a relationship, like going on a special date or a family holiday. However, they may not follow through – and these broken promises may cause a break in trust. Also, they may move from relationship to relationship if they feel their partner is not their equal. Mature ENTPs have overcome this and stay committed to a partner, but they still face the challenge of following through on their many ideas.

ENTPs are usually good at making money. They often thrive in the most lucrative industries like sales, banking or entrepreneurship. They want to live big and are often big spenders and risk takers. This means that while they’re good at making money, they’re not good at saving it. Partners of the ENTP may enjoy that their spouse makes a lot of money, but may worry when they see how the ENTP spends it.


ENTP in Love Strengths

Here are the joys of being with an ENTP in love...
  • Brilliant and charming
  • Seek growth opportunities for self
  • Good with earning money
  • Desire for constant growth
  • Not afraid of conflict or disagreement


ENTP in Love Challenges

Here are the challenges of being with an ENTP in love...
  • May be insensitive to partner’s feelings
  • Over-debate on pointless topics with their partners
  • Focus too much on growth, neglect care
  • Bad with saving and managing money
  • Lack follow through on their words

Developing Your Relationships as an ENTP

To grow in your ability to love and care for your partner, here are some things you can do:

Don’t debate unnecessarily

You are a natural debater, so you like to challenge the logic of things, including your partner’s ideas or proposals. In your mind, making your partner think is your way of guiding him/her. However, be aware that your partner doesn’t think the same. They may feel offended when you play the devil’s advocate because it makes them feel lousy or look stupid. 

Your partner enjoys an occasional debate. But for the most part, keep this side of yourself to your professional life. It works best there. In a relationship, pitting one’s ideas against each other may seem like engagement to you, but it feels like having an adversarial relationship with your partner.

Give space to your partner to be static

Your desire for growth is admirable, but not many can keep up with your pace. To grow professionally is a good thing and this trait has helped you to succeed in several areas. However, your partner may not have the same desire for growth as you. It is not that your partner wishes to remain stagnant, but they may not be able to grow or change at the pace you expect or desire.

Take a step back. Your partner will enjoy the occasional push for growth, and will even appreciate you for doing it. However, other times, allow the imperfections to pass you by – the day will come when you can address it.

Follow through on your words

One of the biggest credibility busters in your life is your lack of follow through. You are a person of ideas – so you often have many initiatives. “Hey, why don’t we go for a holiday at the end of the year?” “Why don’t we do a romantic date once a month?” For you, it might just be a passing thought to be discarded, but to your partners, it may sound like a promise. If you don’t fulfil them, you’ll lose the trust your partner has for you.

Be careful what you say to your partner. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Even if you make promises, under-promise and over-deliver. Not the other way around. Create a system to remind yourself of your promises and make sure you follow through on them.

Learn to measure your words and promise less. It’s always better to under-promise and over-deliver than the other way around. If you have said it, then make sure you put it down on your diary or your to-do list and make sure you follow through on them.


Loving an ENTP

Here’s what you should watch out for when you are dating or married to an ENTP partner:

Be ready to discuss ideas

To be with an ENTP means you have to be ready for debate at all times! ENTPs love debating and discussing all kinds of topics under the sun. If you want to engage them, read up on economics, politics and big social issues. They enjoy having an engaging conversation that you are offering your viewpoint, and the ENTP offers theirs. To them, this is the best most interesting type of interaction.

Don’t take their words personally

Their words can be straightforward and cutting. The key is not to misinterpret their words, but take them at face value. While the charming ENTPs know how to coat their words, they generally don’t see a need to do so with their loved ones.

Say it as it is

Likewise, don’t try to be subtle with them. They don’t know how to read unspoken body language or passive-aggressive behaviour well. More often than not, it leaves them confused. If you’re not happy with something, tell them. They’ll be able to take it without being offended, and see it as an opportunity for themselves to grow too.

Head out with them to their gatherings

ENTPs are constantly on the go and have an active social life. They are usually at the parties and gatherings and would love for you to go along with them. If you’re introverted, you have to learn how to be more active socially. If you need to rest, communicate your need for personal time.


Compatible Partnerships

Although we should never discount a person as a potential partner because of his/her personality type, type theory offers a good idea about which types might suit ENTPs better.

According to theory, the INFJ or the INTJ probably form the best partnership with the ENTPs. They both prefer Intuition (N), which makes communication more straightforward and less chance for misunderstanding. The quiet and planned INFJs or INTJs are a great match for the charming and spontaneous ENTPs.

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